When you die—and you definitely will—do you care if you are forgotten? (Now, be honest about this.)
Perhaps this is on my mind because someone in my husband’s family died recently. And that immediate family has no plans for an obituary or a marker or… and my husband realizes—for the first time—how important that is to him to honor and mark someone’s life.
We do have a choice. Not about dying, of course, but about talking about those who have. Do you want people to tell your loved ones that they should “get over it” or “move on” after your death?
The closing song of the Broadway show Hamilton asks: When my time is up…will they tell my story? Do you want your story to be told? Do you want to be remembered?
(Find suggestions for remembrance in Chapters 3 and 7 of The Courage to Care: Being Fully Present with the Dying. www.thecouragetocare.com )